Our Why
Why We Believe Accountability Is The Key.
“You either make yourself accountable, or you will be made accountable by your circumstances.”
Author Unknown
Accountability is so important to everything we do in life. Why, you may ask, is this the key? Well it is simple really, without accountability we cannot change. Until we can realize that WE are some of the problem, we will NEVER change. Why? Because until we take personal accountability everything that is going wrong in our lives is someone or something else's fault. That sounds great on the surface, because with that mindset we do not have to sit with any uncomfortable feelings or make any personal changes. We can just cry about all the bad things that are happening to us. . . But wow does that leave us forever stuck in a victimhood mentality. We are stuck focusing on all of the things we cannot change and have no power over.
But what if we shifted that mindset from so and so makes me unhappy to I choose to be unhappy? What happens then? We have now begun the process of self accountability which leads to empowerment. When I realize I choose to be unhappy and that no one MAKES me feel that way, I am regaining the true, raw power of self. I control my thoughts, I control my emotions and therefore, I control the world I live in. But in order to give this gift to myself, I have to own and take responsibility for everything I think, feel and do. Welcome to life accountable and welcome to real, powerful change.
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Accountability In Health
Drawing upon our earlier described key of accountability, we can quickly see how excuses, in regards to our physical and mental health, are simply that, excuses. In order to change the way we view our health and the process of becoming healthy, we must change our thoughts and perceptions associated with health.
If you tell yourself it will be too hard to exercise three times a week, then it will be. Your thoughts will tell you it is impossible and your mind will always try to prove you right. This is how we find ourselves stuck in a negative loop, where we bring our own fears to fruition.
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To break this cycle, we can begin to change our thoughts regarding exercise and being healthy in general. We can enlist an accountability partner to help us remain focused and engaged. But ultimately accountability comes from within and we must learn the skill of self accountability.
Accountability In Wealth
Taking accountability in our wealth means owning all of our flaws and strengths. Know what you are good at and celebrate that, while being open and honest with yourself and others regarding your weaknesses.
This can look like making a budget and sticking to it, even if your favorite store is running a one-time sale. Or consistently adding money to your savings account .
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When we realize that our wealth, or lack of wealth, is something that we continually shape, whether it is conscious or unconscious, we start to take accountability for our finances.
Accountability In Love
One of the most important things we will learn in life remains the act of accountability in love. We cannot expect or demand accountability and responsibility from others, until we are accountable for ourselves. When we try to fool others into believing a lie or a justification we have used, we are really only trying to fool ourselves. It is our own self-identity and character that pushes back upon our negative actions that we must quiet. In order to quiet the dissonance within, we have two different options.
1. We can use justifications, denial, blame and minimization in order to trick ourselves into agreeing with our actions, or
2. We can take full accountability for what we have done, own it, and make amends.
At this point you may be thinking, but why does this matter in relationships? Why do I need to take accountability of everything I feel, think and do in order to have a healthy relationship?
We answer simply, it matters. It matters because until we learn these truths’ and begin living them in our lives on a daily basis, we continually give our power away to others. We do not empower ourselves and learn to love ourselves, faults and all. In order to love another human being and accept their love we must hold our thoughts and actions accountable, and learn to love ourselves, which ultimately allows us to love others.